Going through this process has taken both of us out of our comfort zone. It’s not just being out here, challenged. It’s not just being in a new relationship, as a married couple. It’s a culmination of e v e r y t h i n g.

I think things like that bring out so much in a person.

These experiences are in fact, truly, life’s offering of an opening of emotions that have been unprocessed and buried within a person, otherwise hidden from our reach.

Very often, it is so hard to recognize these offerings. While it happens, it is almost impossible to. Since these experiences are offerings of processing and healing emotional wounds, the first thing they do is to hurt you. To show the hurt in you unfortunately means physically and emotionally hurting you again. Naturally, this is how wounds show up. It hurts.

Gabor Mate speaks of triggering a person. This would not happen simply with a gun. It requires some gunpowder, the ammunition that is within you.

Childhood trauma is inevitable.

One way I have learnt to process wounds is to write it out. On paper or in the air.

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Interestingly, the word emotions is energy in motion according to Don Tolman. Energy moves and it can also stop moving. If it doesn’t move, it holds a static charge inside of you, in a certain area. This can be released and that’s what is meant by processing emotions here.

Aside from that, energy is very real. I love learning and working with it. Once I started seeing things from this perspective, so much in my life has changed.